We've all had a hot roommate that we've wanted, and wondered if or how we could hook up with them without things getting weird. Is that even possible?

The short answer is that it is possible, but the long answer is that it usually isn't. We're sad to be the ones to have to break it to you, but if you're incredibly lucky, you could find yourself living with someone who's not only incredibly hot, and loves casual hookups, but who's is also an absolute pro at separating their personal life from their sex life.

But that's only if you want to make sure that things don't get weird. If you don't mind things getting weird, you'd be surprised how easy it is to hook up with a roommate. You both live in the same place, you probably get along really well, and since you're asking, we're going to assume that there's been some flirting going on between you.

If you and your roommate find yourselves with your apartment all to yourselves one night, and there's mutual attraction, you're so close to making it happen. Sit a little closer than you usually do to your roommate on the couch, and watch a movie or something. You just have to read the room(mate) properly, make your move, and hope for the best.

That's of course the simplest scenario. Let's dig a little deeper into other scenarios, and issues that you could run into if you're dead set on hooking up with your roommate.

Who between you and your roommate has lived in your apartment the longest? If you have more roommates, it's also important to know who they like better between the two of you. Like we said, the odds of things not getting weird after you hook up with your roommate are extremely slim, so you need to be prepared for the worst case scenario, which would be that your roommate says that they don't feel comfortable living there anymore, and since you're the one who made the first move, that you should be the one who has to move out, and find a new place to live.

Of course that's not a result that's going to make hooking up with your roommate worth it.

If you live together, there's a good chance that you're aware of who your roommate dates, and how frequently they bring people home with them, or spend the night at someone else's place. If they're fairly sexually active, and don't seem to date anyone for very long stretches of time, this suggests to us that they're pretty cool with casual hookups. This of course doesn't mean that they're going to be automatically okay with hooking up with you, because you are roommates, but it definitely increases your chances of getting lucky.

What types of people does your roommate date? Do they look anything like you? If they've come home with someone even vaguely similar looking to you, your odds have again increased.

Though you might not think it would matter, the amount of dates and hookups you bring back to the apartment is going to play a big roll in whether or not your roommate is interested in you. If you hardly ever bring anyone back to the apartment, they're not likely to even think of you as sexually active. That's a bit harsh, but bare with us.

If you're going out on a lot of dates, and bringing a lot of them back to the apartment, you're without meaning to, letting your roommate know that you know what you're doing in bed. That you can hook up pretty much whenever you want, and that there's probably a very good reason for that. If they've ever thought about hooking up with you, bringing dates back to the apartment and making sure that they notice that you've got someone else staying the night, is a great way to make them wonder what it would be like you even more than they maybe already do.

When you're hanging out alone with your roommate, do they ever not really bother to get fully dressed to come and hang out with you in the living room? An undone or non-existent shirt for a guy, or maybe boxer shorts and a t-shirt with no bra if your roommate is a woman. These are signs that they're very comfortable around you. They could mean that they're open to the idea of hooking up with you, but it could also mean that they don't see you as someone sexual at all. It's a bit of a coin flip, so try to get a read on it with a bit of flirting the next time you find yourself in that situation.

You might really want this to happen, but if your roommate doesn't, you need to leave it at that. Don't bring it up ever again. It was brave of you to take the shot, but you don't have any right to make their home a place where they feel uncomfortable. If you're super hung up on the roommate, and you're having a difficult time living with them, perhaps it's time that you look for a new place to live. Maybe your living somewhere else might make a big enough difference that they'll consider hooking up with you. Don't ask them if it would, because then it would look like you were only moving out of the apartment in order to have a chance to hook up with your roommate, and that is the opposite of chill. There would then be nothing casual about that hookup. you would have completely uprooted your life for it. It would be extremely uncomfortable for your roommate.

You've perhaps noticed at a job, or in a class you took at school, that sometimes someone who you don't find particularly attractive when you first meet them, can slowly become more attractive to you, the more time that you spend with them. If you spend 40 hours a week with someone at work, or maybe around 25 with your roommate, in a more relaxed environment, you begin to see things in them. Sometimes it's a legitimate crush, but other times, it's just a matter of spending more time with that person than anyone else in your life.

If it's just a case of seeing your roommate a lot, we suggest you maybe spend a little more time in your room, and see if your time away from your roommate makes your heart grow fonder, or if you care a little bit less with each passing day.

As soon as you make your move, or let your roommate know that you want to hook up with them, the mood of your apartment will have changed completely. There won't be any going back to the way it was before. Your roommate will very likely behave very differently around you, and if they end up confiding in another roommate, that roommate will as well.

If your apartment feels like a home, we suggest that you try to just ignore your attraction and instead continue to hook up and go out on dates with other people. There's really not going to be anything about this scenario that changes your life for the better.

Let's just say that you did manage to hookup with your roommate. What if one of your other roommates heard you through the bedroom wall of which ever one of your rooms you decided to have sex in? There's a good chance that your other roommates will feel uncomfortable. We know many people who actually have it written into the rules of their apartment or house that they're not allowed to sleep with each other, out of fear of the potentially explosive drama that could arise.

If you hook up, and it's not just a one time thing, then feelings are bound to get hurt at some point in the relationship.

Living with roommates is bad enough as it is, but living with roommates who're also having sex, is a nightmare of epic proportions. When it comes to voting on house issues, the two of you will likely team up and vote together, so what was once a democracy, is now a lopsided vote that your other roommates are at a disadvantage in. Nobody is going to appreciate this move being made.

Have you wanted to hookup with this roommate since the moment you saw them, or is it based partially on their personality, and the time you've spent together as roommates as well. If it's a purely physical attraction, we strongly urge you to give up on this idea, because it will not end well. If however you've gotten to know your roommate over the time that you've lived together, and you just think that you have a special energy when you're in the same room, well then you need to consider if hooking up with them while you both live there is your best way to potentially start a relationship with them, or even an ongoing hookup arrangement. It's doubtful that either would go well.

We're not a fan of trying to get someone drunk for the purpose of making a move on them when they're inebriated. AT ALL. But if you and your roommate often hang out and drink together, maybe the next time the two of you do that, you bring up the subject. Don't do the sloppy move making thing. Especially if your roommate is drunk as well. Just ask them if they've ever thought about hooking up with you. You could be rejected pretty hard, but at least you can always blame it on the wine, and hope that things find themselves back to normal the next day.

The longest of longshots in this situation, like we said in the introductory paragraph, is that your roommate thinks that hooking up isn't a big deal at all. You hook up once, and neither of you ever speak of it again. None of your other roommates ever find out about it, and there would then probably be a strange vibe to your home for as long as you both live there.

If it would be a completely different situation if they were the one to make the first move on you. That's then a situation where the level of weirdness depends entirely on you. That's the dream scenario. We'd love to say that it depends on how charming you are, or how much you make your roommate laugh, but this probably rests firmly on the shoulders of how attractive you are. If you're an 8 to a 10, you know how your luck with hookups goes. You don't need this article really.

One day in the future, you or your roommate is going to move out. There's of course the chance that they move out in order to live with a boyfriend or girlfriend, which would be a bummer, but if you really want to hook up with your roommate without things getting weird, we suggest you wait until one of you moves to another apartment. If your roommate is the one moving, maybe you can even help them move, and offer to keep them company in their new place on the first night alone. Not the smoothest move you'll ever make, but you could certainly do a lot worse.

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