We've all had a "No more Mr. Nice Guy" moment (or two) at one point or another in our lives. Sometimes that point happens to be when it comes to our romantic relationships - and can anyone blame us? After all, how many times have women been told that we can attract far more bees with honey than with vinegar when oddly enough, when it comes to dating, it seems like some men are genuinely more attracted to, well, vinegar. If you've ever wondered: why do men love dating bitchy women? Trust us, so have we. That's why we at EZHookups decided to do some research and take our findings straight to you! In this article, we'll take a deep dive into why, for some men, sweeter isn't always better. Hint: There's a lid for every pot.

You know what they say: opposites attract. So it stands to reason that someone with a more docile personality might want a partner with a lot more, shall we say, sass. Think about it: how many couples have you met where one person tends to take the lead? Does all the talking, steps in to handle any issues, etc? Some people just need an extra backbone or more support in the form of their partner, and that's OK. Let's not forget that for women, the terms "bitchy" and "fierce, strong, no-nonsense attitude" are often conflated. So for the purposes of this article, unless explicitly stated, when we're talking about bitchy women, what we really mean is a woman with a "take-no-shit" attitude.

Having this type of woman by your side isn't even constrained to romantic relationships either. We always have that one friend, that one family member, or know that one coworker. Whatever their story, we can always count on them to be ten times more aggressive than the average person, for better or for worse. And you know what? Sometimes that's exactly what you need! Have a difficult client you don't want to deal with? Have a particularly tough family member you need help standing up to? Do you need a spark lit up under your behind every now and then? Bitchy women to the rescue!

Much like women who find the idea of the proverbial Bad Boy intoxicating, when it comes to romantic relationships, some men regard this personality type as a turn-on, period, regardless of whether they themselves are docile in nature or not. Not everyone is looking to dominate in a relationship or to find a person who is more or less the opposite of themselves. Some people want to find a partner they can feel evenly matched with. One that they feel confident knowing can take care of themselves, set boundaries and expectations, and make decisions when necessary (read: pick a damn restaurant for dinner). Whether or not they're aspiring to be a power couple a la Jay and Bey, for some men, having a so-called "bitchy" woman by their side can be considered, as the kids would say, hashtag couple goals - in short, having two alphas in a relationship isn't necessarily a bad thing.

Another thing to consider is, even if they themselves aren't necessarily a powerhouse, many people are attracted to specific traits they admire in others (and perhaps wish they had within themselves). So, while it may not be a case like the above examples where a man is searching for the yin to his yang, it's possible some men date bitchy women because they think they can stand to learn a thing or two about standing up for themselves or doing whatever is necessary to get what it is that they want. Also, full disclaimer: we don't necessarily condone this type of behavior (at least not one hundred percent of the time).

One other thing to consider is that the men who date bitchy women (perhaps exclusively) don't even realize it. Whether it stems back from their childhood (read: their mother was a so-called bitchy woman) or it's simply a relationship pattern they've never been able to break away from. If it's all they know, and they haven't noticed it (or at least they haven't noticed a reason why they might want to break out of that pattern), they're likely to keep picking the same type of partners over and over again. Like we said before, everybody has a type - and sometimes that's more on a subconscious level rather than a person actively seeking out specific attributes in their significant other. Either way, humans, by nature, are creatures of habit and like the old adage goes, �If it ain't broke, why fix it�? Simply put, for some men, dating bitchy women isn't a choice, it's a lifestyle (insert sunglasses-wearing emoji here).

Low self-esteem is a hell of a drug, and sometimes dating bitchy women is less of a choice and more of a subconscious way of a man telling himself he could never date the girl of his dreams so dating someone who, in all likelihood will take full reigns in the relationship (for better or for worse), is the only choice they have. How many times have you come across a couple where, if you squinted a little, you could almost see a dog leash around the guy's neck. Or teased a guy friend for being "whipped" by his girlfriend. It's all fun and jokes until, as maturing adults, we realize there needs to be some heavy self-reflection for the sake of our future relationships. Of course, this goes both ways - no one should feel like dating a less-than-ideal partner (or someone who's fine some of the time, but really not your cup of tea other times) is just OK. We should all be aspiring to find a partner who complements us in every which way, and if that's not possible, it's better to be alone until we can do the work we need to do to ensure healthy relationships going forward.

Aside from being "used to it", finding it "hot", or potentially thinking they don't deserve any different, some men genuinely think of bitchy women as a challenge - one they'd wholeheartedly like to conquer. After all, it's no secret that most men have a competitive streak and if playing hard-to-get garners such good results, why not play hard-to-please? That's one theory anyway. All couples enjoy some playful banter, getting under each other's skin, or otherwise challenging each other in some way... this is just a version of that. Except, in this case, the "bitchy woman" in question is unlikely to change her ways and the guy may or may not get tired of trying to crack that nut (no pun intended) after a while - especially if the idea is to foster a more long-term relationship. Another thing that might keep men coming back to bitchy women for more is the idea that any niceties that are directed at them are EXTRA special, simply because they're so rare. For many people, overcoming an obstacle (like a tough-to-deal-with attitude) makes winning a prize (no matter how small) that much more worth it.

As with most human-related things, there's science out there that would suggest that men are in fact hardwired to find women with bitchier tendencies more attractive than women who are sweeter and more altruistic - especially when that bitchiness is directed at other women. You know how men love catfights? Yeah, same idea. Even better when the object of a women's ire is another woman because of a man one or both of them are hoping to date.

Of course, some men think a bitchy attitude might translate into the bedroom. In all fairness, this is a bit of a crapshoot as there are many nuances at play. For one, it is super common for someone to have a completely different personality in person than they do in the bedroom. Think: dominant in the boardroom, submissive in bed... which, come to think of it, may actually be part of the thrill. But while someone with a take-charge attitude may be a great addition to your sex life, someone with a hard-to-please attitude may be a little, well, hard to please - and, let's be honest, that's not very fun for anybody involved.

Ask any guy what type of woman would turn him off and, invariably, his response will include points like, "doesn't have her life together", "immature," and/or (unless he's a total predator) "a push-over". The fact of the matter is, most men equate a bitchy, no-nonsense attitude with maturity. And if maturity is something that they value in a significant other then they're likely to connect the dots and decide that they'd rather be with a "bitchy woman" than one with any of the characteristics outlined above. The thing is, though, this isn't always necessarily true. I mean, how many bitchy teenage girls have you met in your life (answer: all of them). So while this thought feels good in theory, it's likely to blow up in a guy's face - and sometimes when it's too late to make a clean break.

We think it's important to note that this is by no means only a guy thing. Plenty of women love the idea of having a strong, er, no-nonsense man as a partner (sorry, "jerk" just doesn't have the same nuance, does it?). Whether you're a submissive woman at heart or just need a partner that can handle all that sass, it makes total sense that, just like men, some women find themselves attracted to "bitchy" personality types. Much of the points we cover in the above paragraphs outline why this phenomena might occur in women as well (just switch out the pronouns, you'll see). At the end of the day, humans are humans; humans are weird; and, as they say, "we like what we like".

As with all things in life, there is such a thing as balance. Far be it from us to tell you what to do, but if this isn't a kink (no shame in that!), and you're actually looking to pursue a long-term, healthy, and fulfilling relationship, it's not a good idea to go too extreme - man or woman. What that means is, a little fierceness is fine, not taking anyone's crap is great, standing up for yourself and your partner, and being comfortable making decisions in a relationship - all fantastic. But please do watch out for the signs. If your partner is taking it too far, namely, acting with you or others in a way that is bordering on disrespectful or abusive, it's probably not a good idea to stay with them in the long haul.

Like we've said before, dating is a two-way street. The goal in any relationship should be reciprocity and mutual respect. If a bitchy man or woman is a major turn on for you have at it! As long as you're happy and fulfilled in your relationship.

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